the 35 People Skills You DIDN'T KNOW

AND HOW TO DEVELOP THEM

The 35 People Skills

Talking to people is easy, right?

You just grab some words, put them in order, say them with the perfect tone, wave your hands around, whack an expression on your face, and voilá!

Everybody loves you.

Then you walk out of the room with everyone chanting your name.

That’s why they don’t teach people skills in school. Because there’s nothing to it. Everyone’s born already knowing how to totally nail it, and no one’s ever had a single awkward situation or miscommunication that they couldn’t fix.

Or at least that seems to be the expectation. Everyone expects everyone to already have great people skills, and that’s why we also expect the same thing from ourselves.

 It’s considered weird to work on improving your communication skills because you’re meant to have already mastered them. You probably wouldn’t tell your friends that you’re improving them, right? But here’s the thing…

Most people haven’t mastered people skills.

Most people have never invested time and effort into improving their communication skills, which means they’ve got holes.

If they can get by ALRIGHT most of the time, they don’t see the holes...

They think they communicate clearly and confidently, but I guarantee you there are situations that trip them up. Situations where they get awkward, or someone misunderstands them, or situations that they just avoid completely.

Because it’s impossible to master people skills without consciously working on them. There’s just too much to know.

Do you know how many things you’re doing at the same time when you talk to a person?

Firstly, you’re structuring sentences, which are often interpreted the wrong way.

Then you’re moving your hands and your body around, as well as all the things on your face, which can easily give people the wrong impression, and most of us don’t even know what we look like.

 

Then you have your voice, your tone, rhythm, timing and dozens of other little things.

Some people naturally pick up these PEOPLE skills faster than others, but no one has mastered every aspect of communication without actively studying at least some of it.

So that means that when you decide to actively improve your communication skills, you start to see everyone else’s holes.

I’ve been studying people skills for 10 years, because I used to be awkward and introverted, and in that time I’ve developed an understanding of 35 skills that most people don’t seem to have.

Some people have a lot of holes, and some only have a few, but I haven’t met more than one or two people who’ve mastered every one of these skills.

When I show my friends this stuff, especially the ones who think they have great people skills, they start to see their own holes too. And then I notice their behaviours change. They improve the way they connect with me and with other people.

For instance, you may or may not be aware that saying something to someone is a two-part process.

You take something from inside your head, then translate it into words plus body language plus audio as best you can. That’s the first part, and it might come out unclear.

The second part is that the other person then has to decode that particular combination of words, body language and audio and pull some meaning from it as best they can, which might also be inaccurate.

So there are two opportunities for miscommunication in each message: the encoding and the decoding. And most people completely fail to check whether they’re on the same page as the other person.

 

They just assume their messages are totally clear and their interpretations are correct, which leads to miscommunication… which then leads to all kinds of interpersonal tension, social anxiety and self-esteem issues.

Now I’m not saying that these 35 skills cover every single aspect of communication, because I’m still learning too. This is simply how far I’ve come in 10 years, distilled into one book.

It’s not the basic stuff that you’ll find in a regular book on communication. It’s the stuff that makes you go…

“Shit. HOW HAVE I never thought of that before?!”

And the better your people skills are, the easier everything in your life becomes.

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Part 1: Practical Communication Hacks

This first section of the book is light on theory and heavy on practice. It’s the stuff that you don’t need to understand in order to be able to apply it.
Part One
  • A Simple Hack That Pulls You Out Of Your Head When You’re Overthinking
  • How To Answer Difficult Questions, When The Only Thing In Your Head Is “Ummmm…"
  • The One Thing You Can Always Talk About To Get Out Of An Awkward Silence
  • What To Say When People Talk Over You, To Politely Capture Their Attention
  • How To Build Trust Quickly: The Surprising Effect Of Giving People Negative Feedback In A Certain Way
  • How To End A Conversation Without Being Rude, In A Way That Makes The Other Person Like You More
  • How To Navigate Group Conversations And Have Your Ideas Acknowledged
  • The Mistake Most People Make At Parties And Networking Events, Which Prevents You From Enjoying Yourself

part 2: STRATEGY

This section forms the foundation for advanced people skills. It shows you how to think.
 
  • The Rare Yet Simple Mindset Shift That Instantly Increases Your Social Value And Makes People Want To Be Around You
  • The Counterintuitive Mind Hack That Eliminates Guilt From Your Life And Strengthens Your Relationships
  • Your Go-To Strategy For Having Engaging Conversations When You Don’t Know Anything About The Topic
  • What To Say To Quickly Deal With Bothersome People, Without Hurting Your Relationships
  • Why You’ll Never Truly Have Close Friends If You Aren’t Selfish Enough In These Areas
  • How To Build Genuine Inner Strength And Resilience, By Exploring Your Weaknesses With This Strategy
  • How To Quickly Get Back To Feeling Happy, Even When You Can't Figure Out Why You Feel Sad
  • The Minimalist Way To Build A Social Life From Scratch, In One Step

part 3: FUN

This section makes your life more interesting.
  • Turn A Boring Conversation Into An Interesting One With Your Choice Of Words Alone
  • Simple Body Language Tips That Help You Naturally Capture And Hold Attention
  • How To Skip Small Talk And Get People To Answer Meaningful Questions, Without Making It Weird
  • The Fun Way To Answer Questions Like “Tell Me About Yourself,” To Genuinely Intrigue People
  • How To Spark Interest So That People Don’t Tune Out When You’re Telling A Story
  • The Essential Ingredient That Makes Your Stories Captivating
  • The First-Impression Mistake You're Probably Making, Because It Seems Like A Good Idea
  • How To Start Speaking To Strangers Without Preparing In Advance… (So You Won’t Freak Out)
  • The Exercise You Should Be Doing Regularly To Expand Your Comfort Zone

part 4: Connection

This section teaches you how to comfortably talk to people at a depth you’ve probably never experienced before.
 
It brings together and builds on everything you learned in Parts One, Two and Three.
 
  • How To Know Which People You’ll Connect With On A Deeper Level, In Just A Few Sentences
  • Make People Feel Immediately Comfortable Around You With This One Type Of Question
  • A Simple Formula For Building An Engaging Conversation When You Don’t Know What To Say
  • Strangely-Worded Questions That Get People To Open Up To You
  • How To Win People Over To Your Point Of View, Without Making Them Wrong
  • Pad Your Personal Questions With These Softener Words To Get Better Responses From People
  • Most Apologies Fall Flat Because People Forget To Remove This One Toxic Ingredient
  • Make People Feel Closer To You By Just Replacing This Super Common Word
  • You Don’t Really Have Any Close Friends, Unless You Talk To Them About These Five Things
  • The Key To Being Authentic: This Life-Long Strategy Is Easy To Understand Yet Challenging To Master

part 5: The course

If you don’t put a system in place to help you make these changes in your life, most of what you’ve learned will disappear.

Old habits tend to erase new knowledge as if you never learned it at all.

That’s why we’ve created a course that internalises these lessons for you. Focusing on one lesson at a time. Repeating lessons at a cadence that’s scientifically proven to help you retain information long term.

THE COURSE INCLUDES:

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This helps you remember these lessons for good. Science says so.

Unique Examples

See each lesson used in different situations, to increase your understanding.

Additional Tips

Specific strategies that teach you how and where to apply these lessons.

Simple Challenges

Exercises that get you to actually use these lessons and build new habits.

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The book has all of the information you need. There are 35 chapters, listed above. But the biggest feedback we’ve received is that it’s difficult to remember to apply each lesson when you’re in the moment. It’s like juggling 35 different balls.

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